Updated: Dec 23, 2020
Ah, the symbolic couple’s first dance. It’s the first moment where the newlyweds embrace one another as an official couple, look deep into each others’ eyes, and share a private, intimate moment – while being photographed by two hundred of their closest friends and relatives.
Fortunately, the simple slow dance is not the only way to do a first dance these days. Look up surprise wedding first dances on YouTube and you will find a plethora of fun, silly, elaborate, or well-choreographed first dances. Some couples start out with a slow dance and move into something more fun and upbeat, while others involve their wedding party in a flash mob to surprise their guests. The possibilities really are endless, leaving the couple’s first dance as one of the last things the couple actually gets to decide for themselves with little to no input from parents or in-laws. If you find that the traditional slow dance is not for you and you want to spice it up a little, here are a few pointers for you and your betrothed as you begin planning your production for the big day.
Firstly, do a few moments of slow dancing before picking up the pace if photos are important to you. Aside from the first kiss, the first dance is the moment that results in the most beautiful, intimate, and treasured photos. If you are planning to add the first dance to your wedding collage, make sure the photographer will have the opportunity to capture the moment before breaking out into your epic dance number. Plus, it will add to the fun and surprise when you scratch the slow music and put on something more jovial.
Next up, fill your wedding party in on your plans. It is generally the role of the best man and maid of honor to hop onto the dance floor when the first dance is over to encourage others to join. If your wedding party doesn't know that you and your new spouse are planning a solo show, they may jump in to soon and the moment will be lost. You may even want to involve your wedding party in a flash mob style dance if you don’t want all the attention on you for the whole dance. Flash mobs are a great way to keep people talking about your wedding for years!
Lastly – and perhaps most importantly – practice! These elaborate productions don’t just happen overnight, and even the best planning can result in a lackluster dance without practice. Even if your goal is a traditional slow dance, a choreographed dance is much more impressive than the middle-school dance of standing in one place and spinning in a slow circle. You’re at your wedding, not homecoming! Make the couple’s first dance into something to remember, because you only get one.